I (18M) have been running some problems with a new friend of mine (26M), and I don’t know how to get out of it.

TW: Sexual Content

Hi everybody! I hope all of you are doing well and staying safe despite the global pandemic.

I came on here to post because I have recently become friends with someone I met online on Kik and Reddit (which is why this is on a throwaway). I ended up becoming friends with him over similar interests, and once he desired to do clean romantic roleplays, I agreed to it, and we eventually began to text through our numbers. However, I’ve been beginning to realize our friendship may be extremely problematic, and that he holds very concerning views on love, friendship, and relationships.

For example, despite me being a sex repulsed heteroromantic asexual, he keeps pressuring me to do sexual things such as touching myself or masturbating to him. No matter how often I would tell him no, he would keep saying that I should do it if I care about him, and he would argue that I would realize how “good it feels” and be “thankful” for him if I did it. He argued that people would do things they hate in order to help those they love be happy and that he would do the same for those he loved even if he hated it.

The more time passed, the more of a problem this seemed to me not only for me but for the people he would interact with in the future, so I brought up situations to show him that his expectations seemed concerning. For example, I told him about a longtime crush I had on a childhood friend of mine who ended up rejecting me. I asked him if he believed she was a bad person if she rejected me. I was expecting him to say no because that is the correct answer and my crush owes me absolutely nothing, but to my surprise, he said maybe.

We had a deeper conversation about this, and he revealed to me that people should love or have sex with someone if someone wants it because it’s part of sacrificing and caring about someone, and no matter how much I disagreed and told him that consent matters, he kept saying that people should consent to have others be happy.

Although he did apologize, I ended up being so horrified by his logic that I believe to stop being friends with him as I cannot support someone like this, and I’m not sure what to do. He has my phone number, so I am starting to wonder if there is any way I can prevent him from having access to it from here on out, but I’m not sure if blocking him would accomplish that. Is it too late for me to do anything?

Thanks for the help you all, I really appreciate it. Have a great day!

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TL;DR: I have a friend who has voiced extremely concerning, creepy, and rapey philosophy onto me. He has also pressured me to partake in sexual activities I do not want to participate in. I was wondering how I can cease contact with him and prevent him from keeping my phone number in his contact list. Thank you, and have a nice day!

Submitted October 25, 2020 at 08:11AM by throwaway1234521039 https://ift.tt/3jthLVc