Because my dad (54M) slept with my brother's (23M) girlfriend now I (23F) have to choose between him and our mom (44F)

I'll be clear upfront: My dad is a scumbag, he always have been, he cheats on my mom on a regular basis, he was emotional negligent with me and my brother our whole lives, we're twins and we spent most of our teen years hearing our dad saying we're ugly, frequently comparing us to himself "At your age I was already this" and so it goes. This plus the fact he's lowkey racist and I saw him doing drugs in hiding a couple of times makes me hate his guts.

Recently my brother found out our dad slept witht his girlfriend (who was only 19 at the time), I don't the details but my brother attacked my dad, the two of them had a fight, a few friends had to put them apart from each other.

At the end, my brother pretty much told my dad he's cutting him out of his life, specifically told him dad won't meet his future grandkids and my brother won't be on his funeral. Great, here's the issue: He also told our mother the same goes to her unless she divorces our dad.

My dad sucks but my mom is an angel, she's the only parent who gave us any comfort at all. What my brother said was: If I go to our mom's birthday party (that our dad will attend) he won't be celebrating our's together, if I show up to see her at Christmas, I shouldn't bother to go to see him.

I'm torn apart because my brother and my mom are the two most important people in my life. I'm sure my mom won't divorce my dad, she might kill him before considering divorce and I have no idea what to do.

TLDR: My shitty dad slept with my brother's girlfriend, my brother cutted him and or (wonderful) mom out of his life and will cut me unless I do the same.

Submitted October 25, 2020 at 03:13PM by PostCapable https://ift.tt/3mg2lW2