Please don't tell me to call the police because I decided I don't want to do that.
Back in June, my boyfriend got really sick. He owned a business, and his sickness plus COVID resulted in his business crashing. I had the means to help, so I offered to loan him money to bail out his business. That was several thousand dollars.
During this time, my boyfriend's mental health understandably tanked. He developed a cocaine addiction. I had my suspicions, but I didn't realize how deep into it he was.
A little over a week ago, I realized that there were unauthorized transactions to my boyfriend from my CashApp. I thought that maybe there was a weird glitch, so I asked if he had received those transactions. He said no and suggested that I call my bank or try to get in touch with CashApp (which is damn near impossible). As I was about to call my bank, my boyfriend confessed that he had been logging into my CashApp and sending himself money because he has a cocaine addiction. I have added up that he stole at least $4,700. He is extremely remorseful and has been working really hard to rebuild trust and improve our relationship. He is working on his addiction and seems to be doing better. He is away from the environment he was in and the people he was around, so I think maintaining sobriety will be more feasible for him.
Between bailing out my boyfriend, helping with other expenses while he was sick and couldn't work, and my boyfriend stealing from me, he owes me over $15,000. We're going to sign a repayment contract, which was his suggestion. He is going to give me most of each paycheck until he pays me back. I believe that he will pay me back, but it will obviously take time. If he doesn't pay me back, the statute of limitations on larceny is 6 years, and I will press charges. Pressing charges is a last resort, though. Having him charged with a felony won't do anything to improve my or his situation. It would be detrimental to him, and I don't want to do that to him.
I want to stay with my boyfriend. I believe that addiction causes you to do things that you normally wouldn't do. I know that he loves me, and I believe that this was an aberration in his behavior and character. I have changed my PINs on my phone, CashApp, debit card, etc. (yes, I was one of those people who used the same PIN for everything). However, I have no idea how to recover from this, rebuild trust, etc. [Edit: I worded this wrong. I meant how to forgive, not rebuild trust...he's working on that.] Where do I go from here? Am I crazy/stupid for wanting to stay with him? I have never dealt with addiction myself or with anyone close to me until now, so I could use some advice on that as well.
Edit: He did not have a cocaine problem before our relationship. I was the person who introduced him to it :( I'm having extreme guilt about that.
tl;dr - My boyfriend stole at least $4,700 from me to fuel his cocaine addiction after I bailed out his business. I want to stay with him, but I don't know how to get over this. What do I do?
Submitted September 01, 2020 at 02:30PM by thr0awaayyy https://ift.tt/3jyHSug
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