My GF (25f) and I have been dating for a little over 2 years, and we officially moved in together a couple months ago. It's been great, except for one part: her best friend.
Her and her best friend (26m) seem to be super dependent on each other. It seems like they do everything together. Before we moved in together, they would have dinner every night when my GF wasn't having dinner with me (even then, about half the time he would be there), they studied the same major in school, and whenever I was at work, he would be hanging out at her house. They even dated each other in high school.
After we moved in together, nothing really changed. This dude still hangs out EVERY DAY at our house and assumes that when my GF and I are getting dinner that he is invited. Every. Night. They carpool together to work also, and when he drops her off he comes in to hang out with us for hours into the night. He also spent an undisclosed amount of money buying her resources for a hobby that my GF and I were going to start doing together. She didn't even tell me he did that until I brought a list of stuff to her, and she told me that he already bought her some of that stuff. Her. Not us.
I am concerned that she cares about him more than me. She's told me that she has no romantic feelings towards him and that he is like a brother to her, and i believe her. But, I think he is in love with her. I know they haven't done anything behind my back, but I feel like that's his end game. I've tried telling her my concerns, but she brushes them off and always says something like "girls can have best friends who are guys. It doesn't mean they want to be in a relationship". I'm not saying they can't be friends, but they just seem way too dependant on each other to the point where when the three of us are together, I'm the one that feels like a third wheel; the one that doesn't belong.
Basically, I just want your opinion. Am I worrying over nothing and being a bad boyfriend for trying to question her about her best friend? Or is it reasonable le to feel this way?
tldr: My girlfriend and her male best friend are very dependent on each other and spend so much time together so it feels like they are in a relationship together and I am the third wheel.
Submitted September 23, 2020 at 09:19PM by SomethingAnon404 https://ift.tt/3iYvvaR
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