My friend and I have been friends for about 3 years now, and a little while ago decided to start an FWB situation inspired by the rona.
It went really well, we've been super compatible as friends ever since we met and have similar worldviews. However, he was looking for something more serious relationship-wise and we mutually stopped after I got worried for his mental health. We talked as per usual for a few weeks, then it died down and he completely stopped talking to me and cut me out digitally.
I was really confused by this until I did some good self-reflection and realized that I might have led him on during this time and I think he wants more, and I'm open to it too. I tend to think about emotions in an intellectual mindset, which made me oblivious to whatever might be going on behind the scenes that I missed and I thought we would be able to set boundaries fine (lesson learned, I understand it's not easy for people to separate the friends and the benefits).
There's a lot of different incidents I can think of that makes me think this might be what's going on, I can detail more if needed but some include cuddling for hours after, kissing goodnight, buying me a toy, and some other (in hindsight) obvious hints that he wanted a more long term thing.
Two of my other friends have started icing me out too, which makes me think that it has to do with him since we're all in the same circle. I really value all these friendships and I want to repair them and possibly explore being something more with FWB. We've always had a direct and clear communication style since we became friends, but I'm not sure how to approach him about this, what to say, or how to really figure out what I'm feeling too and what I can do to avoid hurting him more.
TL;DR - How do I approach my old FWB who shut me out and avoid hurting him and possibly bring up if he wants to be more?
Submitted September 23, 2020 at 04:48AM by diss-dis-dissonance https://ift.tt/33QsuDf
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