Not sure how many people who commented on the original will see this (I don’t use reddit very often). But I want to thank everyone who took the time to comment and help me out. Your guys’ responses gave me the courage to talk to my boyfriend again a couple nights ago and we have agreed to compromise.
I brought up various points of what people have commented such as getting therapy, clarifying his families belief on the ghost stuff, and how driving might help him overcome his overarching anxiety.
He clarified that he’s not overcome by anxiety to the point where it’s disabling him from living life, but it does bother him. We both do not think therapy will be necessary unless things become worse.
We didn’t go in-depth with the haunted family house, but that didn’t seem like the issue with driving. He’s just one of those people who have a strong gut feeling that him driving would put other people at danger.
Thanks to some of the comments I realized my biggest concern : if I need immediate medical attention (mostly if we have kids). He said this was fair to ask because he knew that I would book it to the hospital if anything ever happened to him. He agreed that he would learn how to drive and get a license for emergencies. So thank you again to everyone who put the time to respond thoughtfully. I’m really glad I was able to share everyone’s thoughts with him.
TL;DR Thank you everyone for commenting. It pushed me to talk to my boyfriend again and we came to a compromise where he will get his license for emergencies and pick up other house work as necessary to make up for not driving. Also, the ghost stuff wasn’t as big of a factor as I thought it was (oops).
Here’s the original post:
Also, thank you to the person who suggested to post this as an update rather than leaving as a comment on the original!
Submitted July 03, 2020 at 02:41PM by LucyTheMoose https://ift.tt/2VJYLbS
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