SO [30M] and me [30F] have been together since 10 years. We have 2 kids (4 and 6) and have bought a house together this winter. Today I've found out (by a Reddit post!) that he had multiple orgies in the past two years. I confronted him -- he told me once per two months approximately. All with other men only, different people each time. Told me I was not giving him what he needed sexually. Well I knew he is bisexual and was sometimes looking at gay porn. But what kind of excuse is that? I mean, we all have some desire or fantasy and we do not run somewhere else to fulfill it. I feel so dirty, so lost. Obviously he lost my trust and I do not want to be in a relationship with him, but I've been for the past 10 years, so it's hard to let go. And because of the children we will have to stay in contact; they come first. I do not want us to be the kind of parents that cannot be in the same room.
I am in need of a pep talk. I'm a bit too ashamed to talk about it in real life. Will I be able to trust again? Two years of hiding is hard to swallow (he was doing it during lunch at work; nothing I could find out). How can I go past the pain to see him as a coparent? How to be confident in myself again?
tl;dr: SO of 10 years cheated multiple times over two years. We have two children; I have to go past the pain so that we can be good coparents. How to? Also how to heal myself?
Submitted April 05, 2020 at 05:59PM by bibifou https://ift.tt/2XbvOqP
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