My friend (27F) ditched me (27F) for her rebound following some blunt honesty. Was I too honest? Should I try to fix things?

My best friend (27F) and I (27F) were very close. We competed for our local sports club together, went out together, I went to her family for dinner weekly etc.

After a few years of being single she started dating following my encouragement. She started seeing someone (23M) in the Forces and was seeing him a lot and talking about moving 3 hours away for him if he asked. He dumped her when she pushed for a relationship.

Following this when she was very upset she came to me for support. Within a week she was seeing someone (28M) new. Also in the Forces and based at the same site as the previous lad.

She was house sitting for a friend and the new friend moved in after a week. He was doing her washing and was around 24/7. She was his first relationship after his fiancé of eight years broke things off.

During this time I barely saw her but we spoke via text and she seemed very happy. However, I voiced my concerns that it was all very quick and I didn’t want her to get hurt again. I encouraged her to maintain some distance. Communications between us slowly tailed off after she cancelled plans with my and I bumped into her out with another friend (21F).

Three months ago she told me she had things going on that she wasn’t able to talk to me about but may in the future. Since then I’ve made multiple attempts to talk/meet up but she’s too “busy”. However, she has told mutual friends that I have been a dick and has time for friends that didn’t criticise the relationship.

Four months later she is still with the lad but is no longer talking to me at all and no longer attending our sports club.

The last response to me asking to meet up was that she was busy for a few weeks and I should ask again after that. This inspired a rather petty response from myself and we haven’t spoken since.

Was I wrong for telling her to slow things down and not being entirely supportive of the new relationship?

Should I bother to try and continue to patch things up?

TL;DR I (27F) wasn’t entirely supportive of my friend’s (27F) relationship which appeared to be a rebound. Four months later they are still together. She’s no longer talking to me with no real explanation but has told people I have been a dick.

Submitted January 05, 2020 at 09:35AM by paulatim-solem-sine https://ift.tt/2FpiDIU