My (33f) coworkers(21f-40’sf) are very cold and dismissive to and of me and I don’t know what else to do

I’m not sure if this counts, but I don’t know who else to talk to about this that I haven’t already tried.

I started a new job in October working for a medical billing company in an office with 8 people, all women. I’ve known the office manager for my entire life (she was my mom’s best friend), but we lost contact for over a decade and only recently reconnected. I interviewed with the assistant office manager without my family friend being present at all and got the job based on my resume and how well I did in the interview. I haven’t discussed my history with the OM with any of my coworkers, and the two of us rarely speak or interact at work to avoid the appearance of favoritism/nepotism.

I’ve gone out of my way to be as kind, generous, and open with these women as I possibly could since I started. I handmade every single one of them personalized Christmas gifts that actually cost me a lot of money, I’ve brought snacks for everyone, I’ve stayed out of their personal conversations and have tried taking an interest in each of them personally by asking how their pets/kids are, etc., but nothing I do helps. When they say something to the room, they say each person’s name individually - except for mine - to let me know that they aren’t speaking to me. They intentionally call me by the wrong name and laugh about it, so much so that I’ve brought in my own nameplate to pretend that I think it’s an accident and I’m trying to remind them of my actual name. They condescend to me constantly when I ask them simple questions, and slip in little jabs in overly-saccharine voices to make it seem like they’re concerned and not taking a shot at me. I get a lot of “oh, honey”s, and “sweetie”s, and I fucking hate it, but I don’t say anything about it because I don’t want to make things worse.

The one who seems to like me the least called the girl who sits nearest to me “dear” the other day, then loudly laughed and pointedly said “oh, I shouldn’t call you that, because it’s harassment or whatever” while looking directly at me. I’ve gone to each of them individually and apologized for anything I may have done to upset them, which they all brushed off. I finally called my OM and asked her why they didn’t like me and she told me several things she’d “heard” which were outright lies, then told me not to worry about it because the only person I need to speak to there is her.

But I spend 8 hours a day in this place. I don’t want to just exist there silently while I’m treated like a pariah for reasons I can’t understand. I don’t know what to do. I want to cry every day, my depression and anxiety are through the roof, and I’ve started looking for other jobs.

Any thoughts/suggestions?

TLDR: My coworkers dislike me and I don’t know why, or what to do about it.

Submitted January 20, 2020 at 10:28AM by houseofLEAVEPLEASE https://ift.tt/378hpxQ