TL;DR : My boyfriend of 8 months was really affectionate and sweet but since December he just stopped messaging me and is not interested in me like he was in the past . I feel like I annoy him
Hello. I'm 21, female and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 8 months now. It's my first real and serious relationship so most of the time I don't really know what to do, it's my first time having a boyfriend.
He is 24 and is working right now while I'm still a student at our local university. In the beginning when we were not even seeing each other, he would be wandering around our block of flats when he knew I would be walking back home from uni, just to see me and talk a bit. Or he would be pretending to do something in his garage and waiting for me to show up even if sometimes he waited for nothing. When we started dating he would send me really sweet messages or call me just to hear my voice and talk for a bit. We would always see each other and go out at least once a week, but most of the time for the first 6 months we went on dates 2 to 3 times a week.
But then in December he told me that some guy ,he once punched when he was working as a security guard, took this issue to court and wanted to sue him for assault, after 2 years of silence! He told me this was quite a stressful thing for him and he wouldn't be able to see me or talk with me as much as he would like. And I understood and offered my help, if I would ever be needed. Almost whole December he would message me couple of times in a day, or I would bump into him in our parking place, and we even went out once.
Then in January he just stopped all contact, I messaged him like 10 times in a span of 2 weeks and then I just stopped, and I know that he did have his phone on him and there was nothing wrong with it. Sometimes I would stumble upon him and he would just give me an answer that way, or just ignore the texts. He didn't update me on the court situation but I see that he is not as stressed as before, and he even went out with his friends during those 2 months at least 10 times from what I've heard from him.
So why can't I see him for even an hour? I don't really know what's happening because he just acts like nothing is wrong and what he is doing is normal, but i really don't know, I can't tell if it really is okay. I really miss him and i want to see him more, but I also don't want to stress him out or annoy him when he has something more important on his mind. I don't know what to do. Do you have any idea how could I approach this situation, or do I just wait it out. This whole thing just makes me really sad because I feel like he doesn't want to see me or that I just annoy him.
What should I do?
I'm sorry for any mistakes, English is my second language
Submitted January 24, 2020 at 05:21AM by MintStardust https://ift.tt/2TUpKkZ
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