Unsure if I've ever been so angry in a relationship...
There has always been the classic disconnect between my boyfriend and me; he magically doesn't seem to notice all of the cooking, cleaning, and shopping that goes on around him to keep our household running. This has been an ongoing discussion and argument, and every time I have attempted to bring his attention to the imbalance of labor it has made it worse (he gets an attitude) and I end up doing MORE to keep the peace/keep the clean.
Now it's crossed the line. I was very busy and sick for the past week, and yesterday stayed home and did a ton of catching up on chores around the house. Welp, you guessed it: he confronted me on the unfair division of labor.
I got so mad I could barely communicate (not helpful 😕) , save for the long list of things I do that he never does: cleaning out the fridge, the sinks, brushing the pets, ordering pet food, ordering human food, dusting, litter boxes, taking out the trash, taking out the recycling etc, etc.
He seemed satisfied by this long list. SATISFIED. He said "Oh, I wasn't aware of all of that." Now not only do I feel disgruntled for spending 2x-3x the amount of time on the household every week, but he doesn't even notice or care...and thinks that doing the dishes 40% of the time is splitting the household labor. HELP!
Tl;dr My boyfriend (30M) confronted me about our division of household labor. I did not handle it well. I am positive that I do 2/3 of the labor and have told him this before, thus am livid. Help!
Submitted January 23, 2020 at 06:15AM by devoirog https://ift.tt/2GmvtrC
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