I (34F) sit across from my coworker. We sit in an area that's mixed with other people we don't know, so I'm the only one he talks to. All day. Non-stop.
Long story short, he creeps me out. He doesn't read my very blatant social cues that he's talking WAY too much, and always about himself. He just ignores my obvious discomfort and keeps on talking. When I offer my opinion or try to tell a story of my own, he gets this glazed look in his eyes and will say something like, "Yeah...yeah..." and then gets right back to talking about himself.
Oftentimes he'll say something like, "Hey, what's your favorite food?" And when I answer, immediately he'll say, "Well mine is..." and just runs off on a tangent to talk about himself again. He doesn't ask me because he actually wants to know what I like. He asks as an opener so he can get my attention and then talk about himself again.
Lately I've just been sitting there, in shock, at his blatant arrogance and total lack of boundaries. I keep thinking that this time he's going to listen, this time he's going to act normal, but even when he does, it only lasts for maybe an hour and then he's right back at it again.
Many times I have had to snap at him in order to get him to shut up and let me focus on my work. When I do this, he does back off. But eventually, like I said, he's right back at it again. I am literally starting to feel like he sees me as this DOLL that's supposed to sit there and just listen to him pontificate all day long. I honestly feel violated when I interact with him because of his blatant disregard for my boundaries, needs, and for general social norms.
He's like this with everyone, it's just that I'm the closest person to him proximity-wise and I can't escape.
What would you do?
TLDR: My coworker is an arrogant know-it-all who won't shut up and totally disregards my boundaries
Submitted December 20, 2019 at 04:38PM by dynomaight https://ift.tt/391AwLx
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