Just want some advice because I’m really conflicted over what I should do. Here’s a little background:
Me and me gf have been dating just over a year. We met in university since she sat right next to me in my applied physics lecture and I asked her out on a date, to which she said yes and the rest was history. Initially, she was very affectionate and loved to give and receive compliments but after a while, this started to change. She went on holiday over summer and after she came back (since it was our last year at university), I started a new job and so did she. I live almost an hour away from her and even further away from my office so I’ve got basically 2/3 hours a day to do anything other than work. She is also extremely busy and regularly works weekends too. Because of this, we hardly get any time to spend with each other. We both completely understand this and I tell her that its unfortunate but it’s out of our hands for the time being, but it does result in not seeing each other for weeks at a time. It’s currently been 3 weeks since I’ve last seen her.
She used to let me sleep over all the time (which would mean I could drive to work easier as well) but for some reason, she’s been telling me she’s uncomfortable with me staying the night for the past few months. When we do see each other, there’s almost 0 physical contact (hugs/kisses) and she gets sort of edgy or annoyed when I do try to engage anything. She also doesn’t react at all when I compliment her. Our dates recently have been exclusively walking around malls and talking until we have to leave.
Apart from this, she’s free on Tuesdays every week so last week I called her up and said if we can plan a date. She agreed and all was well until Tuesday came around and she told me: “Hey, something came up at work, I’ve got to cover for someone” and didn’t even remember that we had a date planned. I was annoyed but let it slide. That weekend, I asked if I could see her or stay over to which she refused and said she would be uncomfortable if I stay over.
This week I planned another date for Tuesday. The day came around and I texted and called her after work to no response, so I thought I’d try go to her house with some food and a hoodie I bought her for winter but she didn’t answer the door. I stood there like an idiot ringing the bell 5/6 times to no avail. I finally went home in such a broken mood and when I reached home at around 9:00pm I get a text from her saying “sorry was asleep, what’s up”.
I’ve ignored that message and countless other short messages and numerous calls for the last 3 days because of how she just ditched me twice in a row and takes no initiative to see me. If she wanted to see me wouldn’t she just stay awake or wait till I’m there? Am I wrong for not picking up or responding?
TLDR: girlfriend flaked on two different dates after not seeing each other for 3 weeks. The last one was apparently because she was “sleeping” and didn’t hear her door bell 10 times. Am I wrong for ignoring her since then?
Submitted December 20, 2019 at 07:04AM by acai_livid https://ift.tt/2Mifrmm
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