Me [29F] with my husband [30M] as newlyweds - how do I learn to build a long-lasting relationship if we keep clashing despite otherwise loving and supporting each other?

Okay guys, I wasn't sure how to title this and I didn't want to sound too dramatic but I am facing a problem in my marriage of just two months (we have been together 4 years and living together for 3 years).

I am realizing that my husband drives me nuts! I love him so much and we do support each other and treat each other with kindness and all that. From an outside perspective, we've got it all!! And we pretty much do.

But I don't know how to be more patient with him. For example, he loves to talk about politics, the economy, the stock market, and so on and these things bore me to DEATH. If they don't bore me, they at least stress me out.

He loves to debate and I don't love to debate. He never pressures me to engage with him, but I often can't help expressing an opinion or asking a question about a hot-button issue and I find myself in a lively debate or discussion and I get snippy and frustrated. Husband will always stop a debate or discussion when I tap out, but I don't know how to be patient and engage with him. It's something he loves to do but I don't love it - but we are each other's best friend and primary social support so I feel bad not doing it!

We also love to go out into the woods and forage mushrooms. However, I love to just wander around and find whatever I stumble across and focus my hunting if I find something good. He only wants to go out with a mission - he must acquire the target!! So this big outdoor date thing we could be doing usually ends in him annoying me by dragging me around to find his desired fungus OR I annoy him because I just want to meander slowly and take in the beauty around me.

This would be a great couple's activity but we can't do it together.

I want to do nice things with my husband. I want to spend quality time over quantity time. I want to be more patient and find things we can share. Do you guys have any suggestions or advice?

It's hard when you realize you signed up for this person forever and you really want to do it right and be a good partner but you're not totally sure how!

tl;dr - My husband and I are a great pair but annoy each other and I want to find ways for him and I to spend quality bonding time together, but the things we like to do we clash on. What should we do?

Thank you!

Submitted November 22, 2019 at 03:39PM by AssMaster6000 https://ift.tt/2sa3rfo