Update to: this question.
There was quite a bit of traction on the question and many encouraging answers. For anyone in a similar situation I figured an update might be helpful.
We had a few conversations about how he spoke to me. One time he started getting emotional and then turned it back on himself (how he can't explain himself well) instead of acknowledging how hurtful it was to me. I spent the hour after making him feel cared for and abandoning the goal of the conversation. The second time was much more productive, but nothing changed.
There were other contributing factors (upcoming long distance, difference of hobbies, he wasn't taking care of himself physically [ie. Wouldn't brush his teeth]), but ultimately I broke up with him. It's been 3 weeks now.
There was a lot good in the relationship, he was kind giving, an amazing adventure buddy. But I felt alone, anxious, and like he didn't care to know about me (even though he was a good listener). I need someone who shows active interest.
I cried the day of, but ever since it feels like a weight has been lifted. I've been chatting on some dating apps, and I'm now MUCH more aware of people who just talk about themselves. And I'm having some good conversations, though I haven't met up with anyone yet. I'm hopeful for a partner who will be a little more similar to me in communication.
TL;DR: Broke up with boyfriend who over-explains everything. I feel like an emotional weight has been lifted and I didn't realize how anxious it was making me.
Submitted July 13, 2019 at 04:54AM by notexcused https://ift.tt/2l7Ttrc
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