My (F26) boyfriend (28) doesn’t cook or really help clean the kitchen but wants to call me out on kitchen cleanliness

My bf is a disaster cook but loves some homemade dishes. Tonight we made pizza and I cleaned the counter and I guess I did a less than perfect job, so my bf said “is the counter clean?” To which I said “yes”. Then he said “why is the counter dirty still then?”, as he started cleaning. I got frustrated and told him he doesn’t have the right to say anything because he doesn’t cook AT ALL, and barely ever helps me clean, he only takes the trash out and does much less than I do. I expressed my feelings and he basically said that he doesn’t have time to clean (he works 12h days) and that he should still have the right to “speak his mind”. I told him if it’s anything around the house that he sees me leaving where it doesn’t belong, then it’s ok I’ll feel bad and move it to the right place, but the kitchen is like my place. I own the entire process and I feel like he’s being bossy and patronizing me by inspecting the cleanliness. I work full time 9-5 and go to school for my masters, so I’m busy too, but I do the best I can. I told him that he could have simply cleaned the counter without saying anything, if he really appreciates all I do for him. Do I have a point? This really hurt me.

TL;DR: bf who doesn’t help cooking/cleaning the kitchen thinks he’s entitled to call me out on the kitchen cleanliness

Submitted July 12, 2019 at 11:49PM by vevovava https://ift.tt/2jGbiNX