Where do I start... I've known my fiancé for about 12 years now. Been together for 6 years. He was a rebellious teenager, but eventually cleaned up his ways. We've been through a lot together and gone through major struggles together. He is successful now. He's an Army officer. We planned on getting married next Friday. He graduates on Tuesday. He ditched his old friends and hangs out with fellow officers now and I honestly think they changed him. They're very much like frat boys. He hated drinking, but seems to drink everyday now. We haven't lived with each other for 1 year because he is stationed in another state so I don't know how much he drinks a day. I flew out to see him 3 weeks ago.
Yesterday he asked me to go to the bar to meet his Army friends for the first time. We get to the bar and almost everyone he knows is already wasted. I don't drink so it was very awkward for me. All his friends were very nice, but younger than us. 2 hours later my fiancé is beyond wasted and everyone has noticed. Probably the drunkest guy at the bar and there were a ton of people at that bar. He walks off and starts hugging this girl that he claimed he disliked. I asked him why he hugged her and he said "I was trying to nudge my friend Brendan on the shoulder and it just looked like I was hugging her. And then she hugged me back" Whatever. The night goes on and he accidentally bumps into a guy at the bar really hard and doesn't notice. The guy gets pissed and is about to throw a punch at the back of his head. Fortunately his friend held him back. That's when I hear people next to me whispering "That guy is really drunk..." A guy walks up to me and starts throwing pick up lines at me. I try to politely let him down and walk away when I suddenly hear "Is that guy flirting with you?!!?" from my fiancé. Of course he is, but I say "No" to avoid a fight. I go up to my fiancé and tell him he's had enough. We walk out the bar and he starts groping me and trying to get me to bend over in front of him. I tell him I want to go home so he pulls out his phone and goes to the Uber app. He stood there for 5 minutes because he couldn't remember his log in or phone number. He finally gets in the app and we keep getting "UBER UNAVAILABLE" I ask him who else could pick us up and he says "Uh... I don't know" and stares off into space. All his friends are drunk. His family is not in town. No Uber available. I start worrying because we have nowhere to go. Then he asks "Do you have my apartment key?" I say "Yes. Why?" He says "Give it to me..." I tell him "No. I'll carry it for you. You might lose it" He starts getting aggressive and says "GIVE IT TO ME. YOU DON'T PAY THE RENT." I say "How can you say that? We're getting married this month" I get uncomfortable so I walk away from him and call my mom then his mom because my mind is spinning and I need advice on where to go. He follows me and I'm crying. He asks "Why are you crying? What did I do?" and pretends he doesn't remember anything that happened because now both of our mothers know now and one of his friends bumped into us and is staring at me crying. We finally get a Lyft home and I can honestly say we got the sketchiest Lyft driver imaginable. I thought he'd rob us. We get inside and he goes straight to the bedroom. I thought he knocked out. 30 minutes later I walk in and see the bathroom light on. I try to open it and it's locked. I bang on the door and get no response. He finally opens the door butt naked and screams at me for interrupting his sleep. I get in contact with his friend and apparently this is normal behavior now. I didn't think he'd change so much in 1 year. I don't mind that he drinks, but he doesn't know when to stop. The careless behavior associated with it is scary. He can also get in massive trouble for drinking too much. I don't know how to approach this situation without causing an uproar.
TL;DR - I found out my fiancé is a heavy drinker now and our wedding is in 7 days. How do I approach the situation? I don't mind calling off the wedding.
Submitted July 13, 2019 at 04:35AM by newlifenewprize https://ift.tt/2lgbh3L
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