Hello everyone, a quick synopsis of the situation.
My boyfriend and I have been friends about a year and began dating the beginning of June. We’ve always gone to concerts and raves and parties together throughout our friendship so naturally this carried over into our relationship.
The end of June, we went to a music festival with two of my female roommates. This was the first time my best friend (I’ll call her Katie) would go to a concert with my boyfriend (I’ll call him David) and I.
Quick background on Katie & David: They went to high school together and have known each other for years through marching band. David used to date one of Katie’s old friends, but only recently reconnected when I began hanging out with and dating David. They have known each other longer than I have known either of them. Katie has expressed to me in the past that she found David attractive and wished that she had what him and I had.
At this music festival, we all decided to roll on molly together and as such everyone proceeded to feel very happy and relaxed. We all laid in a pile of sorts together during the show, and I looked up from my spot to see David’s hand going in between Katie’s legs, kind of caressing her inner thigh. Granted, we were all on molly and that makes people act differently, but I saw this and immediately left the situation. David followed me and apologized, saying he didn’t realize what he had been doing and that he would have felt the same in my situation. I was feeling awful emotionally and decided to distance myself from both of them for the rest of the show, and that made me feel a bit better.
This situation resulted in quite a few disagreements between the two of us since then, as Katie, David and I still hang out together and the way they act makes me feel almost as if I’m the third wheel between the two of them. We settled down the situation and I requested we spend less time with Katie and more time just the two of us, and he agreed and this definitely helped me feel more comfortable. The topic seemed to have been solved.
Those feelings have only resurfaced recently. Another music festival is this weekend, and Katie and David both want to go but I don’t have the money. I don’t want to stand in the way of David having a good time, but the whole situation of him going on a weekend trip with my best friend makes me feel uncomfortable especially because of their history and because of the situation that happened at the past music festival.
I trust him but this situation seems like a set up for the end of our relationship. I also don’t want to seem crazy and end up pushing the two of them together. Is it unreasonable of me to express that I would prefer him not to go to a music festival with my best friend? What can I do to maturely express how I feel without seeming like I am controlling him?
TL;DR: my boyfriend and my best friend had a questionable encounter at the last music festival we all went to together. Now the two of them want to go to a music festival that I am unable to attend and it makes me feel uncomfortable. How do I express this to him without seeming controlling?
Submitted July 17, 2019 at 12:29PM by guxeful https://ift.tt/2Y7LtZg
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