So this requires a little backstory.
My mom and dad are divorced, and my mom only works 14 hours a week. We basically live off of alimoney, and I don't get a lot of money to buy clothes etc. Hence I have been working since I am 13. I have never ever made a single problem out of it that, I always just paid my own stuff and gave things to my little brother (13M).
Me and my bf have been together for 5 months now, and since 3 months ago we have been planning for him to join on the vacation. He would be driving one car, my mom and her BF would be driving the other.
Since my sister and her best friend would join on the vacation too (spoiler: they don't have to pay anything for the vacation) we need two cars, and if my BF would not join they would need to rent a bigger car. (for 7 persons for two weeks, so that'd be crazy expensive).
I thought it was quite reasonable when my mom made me pay €200 for the vacation, because he will both save us money but of course it's just the justified thing to do since we have to cook extra meals etc. If you would really make an equation, he saves us more money than he costs us, but I don't mind just the 200 euros (it's about a month's salary for me so it's still a lot, but I did not complain about that, even though my sister doesn't have to pay for anything).
Thing is, after we decided I'd be paying €200, which I split up with my BF because that's obviously more fair, my mom started bugging me every day about wanting his parents to pay for it too. She wanted more and more money, and she said that only when she had €500 she would consider me not paying anymore. I got absolutely furious about this, because the vacation in itself is very very cheap (we are driving from the Netherlands to France, and we are renting a very cheap place there. We won't eat any meals out or do any expensive activities), but I kept quiet because my mom and me have a lot of fights already.
It didn't stop there though, she went on and on disrespecting my BF's parents. I know that they are amazing persons that work very hard for their children, so I got mad about it and tried telling her to stop, with no result. My BF talked to his parents and they decided to spend €100 (Which is completely justified, they have 5 children and it's not like they're rich but it's already pretty generous since he is an adult). When I notified my mom about this, she was super disrespectful again, saying that it was really not enough and that she thinkgs it's bad of them.
My mom has never paid anyone else for vacations my sister& I had joined on, and my sister never had to pay for any vacation her best friend joined on. It's absolutely hypocritical in my eyes.
I tried to talk to her about this but it ended up in a fight. I want to approach her about this subject because in my eyes I have to pay quite a lot and she is just being so disrespectful. I don't want my BF to feel uncomfortable at my house because of this. How do you all think I should approach the situation without causing fights?
TL;DR My mom makes me pay for the vacation in a hypocritical way (in my eyes) which causes fights and I really want to resolve this situation to make it stop.
Submitted July 24, 2019 at 05:20AM by Pizza1228 https://ift.tt/2K5NeNI
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