My (27M) ex (28F) left me a year ago to 'fulfill her dream', now she us back and wants to get back together

We dated for 6 years, lived together and were engaged. I read a similar story on here and would like to ask your opinion about mine.

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We had difficult times and very good times. The last year of our relationship, my 10 year old brother (fom my dad's new marriage) was diagnosed with cancer. This changed me a lot, I was often sad and frustrated and had to take care of him a lot and seeing him so ill broke me.

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GF and I argued a lot, about our future: she wanted to do volunteering all over the world, wanted to be an expat. I told her this had to wait till my little brother got better.

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One evening we argued, I yelled, she yelled, and I told her 'dammit, I am tired of you.', this was after I had discovered she was on Tinder because we did not have sex that week. She took this as a sign of me 'kicking her out' and told me we were on a break but I was not allowed to see other people or make plans. She needed time, boundaries etc. After a week, she told me she had been sleeping around.

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After that, she was mean to me, told me to forget about her etc. When I finally started to date again she got mad, called me a 'cheater' and a 'manwho--re'. She told me physical cheating is not bad but talking to others is, she still had my FB passwords and looked through all my messages. Then wanted to get back together and I told her we would need time.

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She got bitchy afterwards, claiming she was 'scared of me' because I like to watch wrestling on tv. When my little brother was in the hospital, she still asked me for help, driving her places, which I did, only to hear about her hookups etc. When it got diagnosed that my brother was going to die, I called her but she told me 'yo know, I'm busy'.

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In the end she called me names, told me she had been seeing some other dude for a while and that she had planned to move abroad and was not coming back however she still 'cared about me'. I cut off contact with her. She still tried to reach out to my friends to talk bad about me, however they cut her off. She left, and my little brother died in august of last year.

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It has been incredibly hard. She called me abusive, how I deserved all the bad things happening to me. I am trying to get better.

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Yesterday, she reached out to me on FB. About how she was back in the country, how awfull her trip was, how men did not treat her well, how I am the one etc. I am not sure what to do? I feel so hurt.

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Tl;dr: Ex left and came back now, what to do?

Submitted May 27, 2019 at 01:56PM by NoZebra9 http://bit.ly/2JFM5yp