My (30f) husband (26m) is not interested in sex with me now that I'm pregnant. I'm concerned because of this situation paired with something else I found...

My husband and I have been together 2 years now. We married in July when I was 3 months pregnant. (We were already engaged with that date before we found out we were having a baby.) He is over the moon about being a dad for the first time, and he is an amazing father to the 2 children from my previous marriage. He's always been so good to us all.

But... the DAY after our wedding I found a condom wrapper in the washing machine. I called him into the bedroom and asked him flat out "wtf." He immediately said, "Omg.. I am so sorry, It was in the box!" We had visited his parents the weekend before and he had been going through a box of his old stuff. He said he found it stuffed inside his old bible (of all things) and pocketed it because he was afraid and embarrassed that someone would see it.

I accepted the explanation and decided to try to move on and get over it, because it honestly seemed like it made sense. But what's REALLY making it hard for me to get over it is that my first thought when I saw it was, "I knew it. I knew something was going on." He had been acting weird and I couldn't figure out why.... but the weird behavior could also have been explained by the fact that they had moved him to 12 hr night shifts and the poor guy was tired. We only saw each other on weekends. He just seemed different and checked out a little. He's no longer on night shift and things are a little better in that sense, I guess.

And now he has no interest in sex. I'm currently 7 months pregnant but it's been this way almost the entire time. We've talked about it twice and he just tries to reassure me that he loves me, finds me attractive, and that he's sorry and will make it better. It's just so strange when he used to have a high sex drive just like i do, and then it just disappears with no real explanation. He said, "I'm sorry it just hasn't been on my mind." I understand that some men just can't have sex with their pregnant wife because it's weird to them, I get it. But he says that's not the case so idk what to think. He just got back from a yearly week long hunting trip with his family 2 days ago... and no interest at all sexually. I was pretty disappointed and feeling sad about it.

What do you guys think about all this? I don't talk about my marriage in a negative light in real life. Just hoping I can vent and get some insight from outsiders looking in. One last insight... I was married before for 7 years. My ex cheated on me almost the entire time and I had no idea until he confessed. We had our issues but i never thought that was one of them. I had blinding and unfaltering trust in him. So I'm teetering on the line of not making that mistake again and not making my ex's bad choices my husband's problem. If that makes sense.

Tldr: found a condom wrapper in the washing machine and my husband has no interest in sex. Not sure if something is going on or if my past has given me trust issues.

Submitted November 17, 2018 at 03:53PM by 88hearmeroar88 https://ift.tt/2qZW9Hn