To start, I'm 26 and this is my 1st relationship ever. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now. She recently moved into my apartment 4 months ago, leaving her family that lives an hour and a half away.
I currently work 12 hour nights and don't go to bed until 9am and usually sleep until 5pm. As soon as I wake up, and still in a groggy state, she immediately starts asking me what we're doing for the evening. I'm a person who likes to be home a lot on my off days to recharge. We work opposite shifts, so we don't get to see each other too long for a few days in a row, but still get out regularly to see a movie, get dinner, etc when our off days line up. If there is ever a day I want to stay in, or on a rare occasion hang out with a friend, she'll just say "But I've been staying in all day watching TV and waiting for you to get up."
I asked if she had any interests in taking up a new hobby or going to a meet up to try and make some friends down here. The other day I said "How about doing a puzzle?" "No, that's boring." "Ever feel like going on walks?" "And doing what, seeing the same things and walking the same paths?" "Ummm, okay, how about going to a meet up?" "No, fuck that! That's for sketchy people!" She tells me she gets bored when I'm not around or sleeping, but flat out says she refuses to try something new to entertain herself or get out to meet others. She claims I never spend time with her, which is not true at all. Even if I stay home an entire night, I can't play my PS4, guitar, whatever in my man cave for 30 minutes without her coming in and sitting down.
This is incredibly draining because if I ever plan a chill night or go out with friends, I'm feeling a bit of guilt at the back of my mind and it kind of ruins my fun. Not to mention, she texts me a lot throughout the night, and if I haven't responded for a while, she'll text "Hello??" like she just can't let me have my night / needs that attention. I've also grown incredibly irritable and have actually lashed out a few times at her recently, that ends in me having to apologize for everything. I have no idea what to do. I've tried talking to her about all of this too, and she begs me, in tears not to end things between us. I just want to know if this is abnormal behavior, with it being my first ever relationship.
TL;DR; : Girlfriend won't try new hobbies or meet people. Starting to get drained.
Submitted November 17, 2018 at 04:42AM by 3GoalCushion https://ift.tt/2QaUc9f
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