Throwaway account because my usual account is too obviously me.
To start off, I already don’t have the greatest relationship with my parents, and I never have. I’m not saying I’m perfect, because I’m not, and I’ve definitely done things in the past that I regret now, but who hasn’t?
A bit of background info: My brother is 18 and a freshman at my university. He started going to parties (nothing too extreme, he was still going to classes and getting good grades). About a month and a half ago, he got caught drinking underage, and was nearly sent to the emergency room for alcohol poisoning. Our uni has a policy that if that happens, a letter is sent home to the student’s parents letting them know that their child violated the university’s alcohol policy. No details are given, though. After I tried and failed to intercept the letter for him, he came up with a story that basically put him in a really good light, and made one of his legal drinking age friends and a fictitious police officer look really bad. Our parents got the letter, freaked out, and he lied for over an hour. They bought the story, and he got away with it.
Onto the issue: My brother and I had a week long break that we spent with our parents. The alcohol policy incident came up, and my dad told us that he never expected to get a letter from the school about my brother. In fact, he continued, he almost called the school to make sure they meant his son and not his daughter, because I would be much more likely to break a policy like that. When I asked him why he thought that, considering that I’m of legal drinking age and can’t really violate that policy anymore, he replied “Because you’re the bad child, and [your brother] is the good one.” And my mom agreed.
I’m not perfect. I know that. But I’ve never been AWFUL. I asked them why they thought I was the bad child, and all they could say was “That’s just how it is.” Then they went on to say that if anyone deserved to have an alcohol policy violation on their permanent record, it was me, not my brother, and that my brother is a better person than I am.
Now, again, I realize I’m not a perfect person who has done no wrong. I‘ve done things that my parents would disapprove of if they knew, but not, like, awful or illegal things (except for some underage drinking before I turned 21). But I never thought that they considered me the bad child.
Honestly, this is probably a little issue I’m blowing way out of proportion, but it’s been eating at me. I haven’t said anything to my parents about it, either. I just don’t know what to do.
How do I get over this?
TL;DR My parents consider me the bad child compared to my younger brother, and I don’t know how to not be bothered by it.
Submitted November 27, 2018 at 06:17PM by this-isnt-really-me4 https://ift.tt/2FI9wGk
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