I [M37] don't have friends and don't want any. This worries my wife [F40]. Is it okay to just not have friends?

My wife and I have been together for 3 years, married for 2. She had three kids from a previous marriage when I met her so I moved across the country to be with her and have no regrets at all about it. Our relationship is not perfect but I love her and I'm not going anywhere.

I have never been good at long-distance relationships, even at the level of friendship. Slowly but surely I have lost contact with most of my people on the other coast. I don't know, life just moves on. I didn't intend it but I definitely allowed this to happen.

I am an introvert and it has always taken me a long time to make friends but I have lived here for 3 years now and still have none. It occurred to me recently that I don't want any either. I love my alone time, I covet it, I find that I rarely get as much as I would like.

Do I really need to have friends? I don't feel lonely now that I have a wife and kids, they easily fill up all the human interaction that I need.

I make a big effort to give my wife and kids the space they need. I encourage them to hang out with their friends as much as they want.

My wife is worried about me. She doesn't think it's normal to have no friends. I have tried explained to her that our family is all the social interaction that I require, but this worries her more.

My thinking is that if I don't limit her and the kids from having friends, and even encourage it, why can't I just be left to my own devices? Making friends is hard, I don't like doing it. I don't feel lonely anymore so I don't see the point. What do you guys think? Is it okay to just not have friends?

TL;DR: I don't have friends and don't want any. This worries my wife. Is it okay to just not have friends?

Submitted November 05, 2018 at 05:13AM by inflammable https://ift.tt/2D4uHPD