Female friend (19F), whom I asked out and got rejected, is upset I (19M) don’t hit her up as much after she got a boyfriend

I met a girl this year who I just thought was the bees knees. I really liked her and being around her so that’s what I did. We talked everyday and hung out/studiedfrequently for like 2 months. After getting to know her a little better and picking up what I thought were hints (apparently not I guess), I asked her out. She said she wasn’t ready to be in a relationship right now as she broke up with her long term boyfriend last summer. Understandable. Whatever. We’re still friends. Naturally, we dialed back how frequently we saw each other. I was treating this girl like my girlfriend and she wasn’t. It wasn’t good for me nor was it how I treat my other friends either, so I backed off but still hung out fairly frequently. About a week and a a half, later she gets a boyfriend. Again whatever. It’s clear she never saw me as a potential boyfriend and she only told me she wasn’t ready for a relationship to turn me down easy. Can’t be mad at her for that.

But now she’s complaining I rarely ever ask or agree to hang out to do things we used to. I’m still her friend and there for her, but I can’t be her second boyfriend and I don’t know how to word that to her. I’m a very busy person. Normally I usually hang out with a friend once a month maybe. Don’t have to time to text one person everyday and hang out frequently. I only did that before because I liked her and saw more than being friends a possibility. If I kept doing what I was doing before, I’d literally just be her second boyfriend and that wouldn’t be honest to her or fair to me. I’m all for staying friends, but that would entail me treating her like my other male friends. I tried bringing this up and she wasn’t having it. If I can’t explain it better, I’m contemplating just ignoring her when she complains. Would that be a dick move?

TLDR: hung out a lot with a girl because I wanted to date her. Asked her out and got rejected. She’s dating a new guy. She’s upset with me for not trying to hang out with her as often.

Submitted November 04, 2018 at 09:25AM by GoBlue1126 https://ift.tt/2F3Wl20