My brother was visiting this weekend and my friend was with me when we met up. I don't know exactly how this is possible, but she was instantly infatuated and started behaving inappropriately. She did have a few drinks in her system, but wow it was like upon seeing him she turned into like extreme seduction mode or something.
My friend and I have known each other for 3 years. We share everything together. She knows all my history and my thoughts and feelings and I her. She knows how much trouble my brother and I had growing up and how we've overcome it and managed to create an extremely strong bond regardless of all the family dysfunction.
They're talking and she says to him, in front of me, "You're not as scary and untrustworthy as ____ said you were. She definitely painted you in a bad light."
My brother and I were floored. I immediately said "What the hell? I have literally never said anything remotely close to that about my brother. How dare you insinuate that I'd even say that. I even told you earlier today that my brother was the only person I could truly trust. Where the hell is this coming from?"
This comment seriously enrages me. It makes me feel like she is trying some strange triangulation bonding technique with my brother and it reminds me too much of all the stuff our mother put us through. I don't know why she would try to throw me under the bus like that so quickly, especially because what she said wasn't even true.
She got defensive after I called her out and backpedaled but didn't apologize or anything. It was definitely like a "Okay, she's wasted." moment. I tried to call her an uber but she wouldn't leave. So she tagged along and we met up with some of my other friends. The entire night she is literally fawning all over my brother, has doe eyes on, leaning in close, hand on his forearm, listening to his every word. All my other friends are like "What is going on? isn't your brother married?" My brother is completely oblivious somehow. The night progresses and I am somehow babysitting her after bar close. She asks him if she can kiss him. He says "Uh, no. I'm happily married." and finally realizes what is going on and backs away from her. But she's too drunk at this point to understand. So she keeps trying to sleep on the couch, where my brother is sleeping. I have tried to convince her to get an uber home several times but it is not taking. Eventually I get her to sleep in my bed and she passes out.
The next morning she acts like nothing happen. She invites herself to brunch with us and it's like yesterday didn't occur what so ever. She tells me to let her know if we go out later that night and then Ubers home.
I want to express my feelings but she is also a very...emotionally frail person which causes me to hesitate. She has extreme anxiety and has attempted suicide once because in her words 'life is too hard.'
How the hell can I be like "Dude, what the fuck?" in a way where she will actually acknowledge and take personal accountability for her behavior?
TLDR: Friend got drunk, sad inappropriate things and came onto my married brother. How can I confront her without her sinking into a deep depression?
Submitted November 04, 2018 at 07:58AM by ThoreauAwayTheroux https://ift.tt/2PHSv2A
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