Boyfriend's (M18) parents invited me (F18) on expensive family vacation. How do I approach finances?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about half a year and are currently doing LDR as freshmen in college. I'm Chinese and he's white, so our parents have quite a few cultural differences. His parents let me sleep over, I've had dinner at his house twice, and I am generally pretty comfortable around his family. They are pretty lenient with him, but when I told my mom about sleeping over, she got very mad and banned me from doing so. Regardless, I've been lying and saying I'm sleeping over at my friend's houses.

His parents invited me on their winter vacation and booked a flight for me. It was not his idea; his mom asked me directly when I was at his house last week. They are pretty well off: the ticket was $2300 (first class one way and economy on the way back) and they are renting a boat that we'll be staying on for a week.

My parents initially protested the trip because they think I'm taking a serious step forward in the relationship too early on. Although they eventually agreed, my mom wants me to insist to pay for the plane ticket, and at least give my boyfriend the money if his parents reject it. I didn't tell my parents about the boat, or that it's a first-class ticket. Compared to his family, $2300 is a lot for my parents, and we would never spend that much per person for a vacation. My mom said that she could pay for the plane ticket but I don't think she's expecting such a high number. I told my mom I could use my own money to pay for it, but I only have ~$1500 from my summer job.

When I asked my boyfriend about paying, he said his mom will definitely not let me, and he's insisting that I don't need to either. He thinks his parents invited me because I'd make it more fun for him and that his family has less arguments when I'm around. What should I do in a situation like this? Should I talk to his parents about offering to pay? If they reject, how can I "repay" them for their generosity?

TL;DR: Boyfriend's well-off family invited me on expensive vacation (a week on a boat) and bought my plane ticket (first class) already. My mom wants us to pay for the plane ticket but she doesn't know how expensive it is. My boyfriend insisted I don't need to pay. How should I talk to his parents about offering to pay? If they reject, how can I "repay" them for their generosity?

Submitted November 04, 2018 at 09:07PM by 2021022 https://ift.tt/2JFo1cj