So, Susanne and me have been together for something under two years now. I met her through a friend of mine and we ended up together straight away, like first time we met. This has never happened to me, not even when I was younger and far more prone to impulsive things. Apparently, that's never happened to her either, since I was only her 2nd boyfriend, whereas I had more experience than her in relationships (this is kind of important later on).
From day one, there's been a really tight bond between us. I never had the urge to spend so much time with someone else, as I did with Susanne, and it was very much mutual. I think it'd be accurate to say that we were together for 6 days of the week, even if we were working or studying or whatever. Not even being ill separated us (she would come over to help me get better and I'd do the same).
Our relationships has had its ups and downs, more of the former thankfully, but this latest one... I don't know. One point of contention that's only been brought up once so far is that I was her first, in all the ways that matter. On my side of things, I loved everything about that, the fun of exploring things that she likes, finding out what makes her go, and she liked it too... except when she brought up the fact that I had other girlfriends before her. One time, she even asked me for the number of girls I dated before her and I, moron that I am, told her without thinking it through. In her own words, she was disappointed I didn't wait for her, like she waited for me. I got the impression that she thought it cheapened everything we did together and it really brought me down. But she apologized and said she didn't really mean it and I was kind of eager to get away from the subject, so all was forgotten.
That was ages ago and, but my problem from the title happened just yesterday. I went over to her place, but when I got there, she told me about her old high-school friends calling her and asking her to go out for a few hours on that same day. We didn't really have any plans for the day, other than just being together, so I figured what the heck, why not? Out she went and I stayed at her place, just browsing stuff online. More than a few hours passed, but that's okay, you can't really put a number on that sort of things when you meet old friends and talk all about your lives. But then more than 5 hours passed and I just ringed her once, to see when she'd be coming home, so I knew whether to order some delivery food for both of us or just myself. She answered straight away, but I got the feeling like I was intruding, so I kept it short.
When she did come back, she was in a weird mood. I can't really say what it was like, but it seemed to me at the same time she was both smug and irritated and kind of playful. Like I said, weird. So we started talking, me asking how her meetup went, and she talked on and on for a bit, and then she casually brought up her ex-boyfriend and how he dropped in on the meetup as well (he went to the same high-school class with her and her friends, but I was given the impression it was only her girl friends attending). Okay, nothing odd about that. Except she started focusing on telling me about her ex-boyfriend. I didn't really understand at first why she did it, but then I noticed how she was talking about him and I straight up asked her "Are you trying to make me feel jealous?" and she was I think embarrassed by it, so she admitted that she was. So I told her "Okay. I'm gonna head home now, I'll call you tomorrow" and went up to her and gave her a light kiss. She immediately started crying and clinging to me, begging me not to go, but I really didn't feel comfortable in staying, so I tried my best to placate her and left her there, but after I left her place I called her mom and told her Susanne needed her for the moment.
Back home, I was just confused. I don't understand why she would do this. Further more, I have no idea how to react to this. Even now, I'm still at a loss. Other than making me jealous, which didn't happen, what was her goal here? What was she trying to do? What did she hope for to happen? And more important, what am I supposed to do? I feel like straight up breaking up with her would be too harsh, but I'm not sure I want to wait around and experience something like it again. I don't like being played around with.
tl;dr Long-term girlfriend unexpectedly met her ex-boyfriend while out with a group of friends, while I was waiting for her to come home, then she tried to get me jealous by talking about him in a sort of flattering way, but I didn't want to play that kind of game with her, so I left and told her we'd talk tomorrow (today, that is). I still have no idea why she did this. Or what am I supposed to do? How do I react appropriately?
Submitted August 28, 2018 at 12:07AM by amiwrongforth https://ift.tt/2ohSKSH
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