My [24M] best friend [24M] since kindergarten has become abusive and hard to be around, but I enjoy hanging out with his sister [19F] and family. I don't like being around him anymore.

Grew up with my oldest friend and we are both 24. He struggled in college and ended up dropping out and has never worked before, and went through a depressive episode (and still is in it). He generally has spent the last 4 years of his life sitting in his room on the computer. His parents are very very well off and can support his lifestyle.

Their family basically considers me family; I am over at their house 3-4 days throughout the week. I mostly hangout and do things with his sister since he has bad anxiety and finds going outside to be almost torturous. When his family invites me on trips he doesn't participate in activities like swimming/hiking/being outside, and sits on his phone.

Lately he has become too much for me to handle. He got in a fight (verbal) with my cousin who was visiting, and she had the stones to call him out. This shut him up but I could tell he felt very flustered because most of us just let him say whatever.

He is extremely rude to his family who are nothing but nice to him. Examples are him yelling at his sister who is nothing but helpful to him, saying how "he hates pleasant conversation", and forcing his family to come home early from their trip to Mexico because he didn't like it. He talks negatively about basically every subject we (friends and family) have interests in to the point where it's almost as if he just wants to argue.

He is one of my oldest friends and I feel obligated to bring him with us when we go places to help with his depression, but I absolutely dread it. I also feel slightly uncomfortable since his sister and I are much closer than he and I are now. I am scared to call him out when he starts ranting negatively about things he doesn't really have knowledge talking about, in fear that this will further negatively affect his mental state. Do I just start making plans without him? Do I let him constantly speak miserably about at hand topics? Or do I address it and potentially make matters worse?

tl;dr: Old friend has become extremely negative and annoying. Not sure if I should call him out, shutup, or stop hanging out with him.

Submitted July 31, 2018 at 12:14PM by Fairoakschickens https://ift.tt/2vw45lw