First, I want to thank everyone for the input and support provided. I apologize for not providing an update sooner.
My wife and I were able to bridge the gap in communication, primarily because I'm the person who cooks in the house.
The day after my post, I opted not to cook breakfast instead of being proactive and cooking before she even wakes up. When my wife awoke and asked about breakfast I suggested take out so that the time I normally spend cooking for the day can instead be used to fix the communication issue we were having.
Wife almost immediately apologized (after taking the time to go through her morning hygiene routine). She stated that she was annoyed because she felt that me just providing her with the money wasn't me supporting her in the way she wanted. I asked her why she didn't communicate that instead of reacting the way she did, and why she chose the silent treatment instead. She let me know that the day had been very tasking on her emotionally due to some ongoing with her brother and sister, and when I gave offered her the money, it was very overwhelming, and she needed the time to gather herself.
I know my wife is more emotional than logical, AND she processes emotions very differently than I do. I didn't question her about it. Just asked her if she needed more time to process everything. She said yes, so I gave her the option of letting her be to her mechanization until she's ready, or to continue our weekend routine as usual but in mostly silence so she can think/process what she needs to and we can talk after.
She chose to be left to her own mechanization. I'm not sure what all she did during the weekend but Tuesday we talked more. She answered the questions I had, chief of them being- What kind of support did she want? She said she just wanted to know that if something drastic happened, I'd be willing to help. She also said she has money to handle all the tax stuff, and the money she owes her mom, they've already agreed that my wife would pay that back by the end of the year so she still has plenty of time. She also showed me the changes to her finances she made over the course of Monday and Tuesday, and from what she showed me, she's on track to be able to meet the financial obligations.
For those who were asking if I had to do anything sketchy to get the money to give to my wife- no, That's under my monthly earnings and it was just a matter of centralizing it from the different sources to cash for her.
Again, thank you all for the support, and for the awards in the comments.
TL;DR- wife needed time to process the overwhelming day, and the blow up at me was a mistake. We fixed the issue by talking it out a few days later.
Submitted March 06, 2022 at 10:57PM by Clixer712 https://ift.tt/ohsaGp5
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