We have been together for 2 years and live together. My boyfriend often goes into work late. He tells me his job is okay with it, so I don't really care that he does. When he goes in late, he has to use PTO.
Yesterday at dinner, he told me he wanted to start conserving his PTO.
This morning his alarms went off, and he snoozed all of them. I asked him if he was going in late, he told me yes because he wanted to lay there and cuddle with me for an hour, which is fine; like I said, he goes in late all the time. But since he told me yesterday he wanted to conserve his PTO, I asked him "are you sure you want to go in late? You said yesterday you wanted to conserve your PTO. You go in late often, maybe you should change your start time".
He blew up on me, basically. He aggressively turned away from me & said "I'm not even tired, I just wanted to lay with you". I told him "well if you're not tired you should go to work". He then got up, threw his phone across the room (he has been throwing his things more and more often when we fight which really bothers me), & started getting ready for work while loudly talking about how he doesn't need me to "lecture him" and how he's "a grown man who can do what he wants".
At this point I'm sad and start crying because I didn't intend to start a fight and I didn't think I would end up causing one. It also makes me extremely sad & emotional when he throws things due to a previous relationship I had with someone in the past. It seems lately my boyfriend gets angrier quicker. I told him that I wasn't lecturing him and I was just questioning him since he told me yesterday he wanted to conserve PTO. He told me what he said yesterday doesn't matter and that if he wants to go in late, he's allowed to do whatever he wants. He also said that he "doesn't know of any other person that would be opposed to their significant other going into work late so they could stay with them to cuddle for an hour". he also essentially told me I was being too emotional, and I also tried to explain to him how it scares me when he throws things and that's why I'm emotional, but I don't know if he was even receptive to that; he gets really frustrated with me when I cry when we fight. I feel like he's basically trying to make me feel like I'm the bad guy/I'm in the wrong, when in reality, there is no right or wrong & I don't think this should've turned into a fight anyway.
I truly don't care if he goes in late. He's right, he is a grown man who can do what he wants, & I tried to explain to him multiple times that the only reason I asked is because he told me he wanted to conserve his PTO the day prior, but he really wasn't listening to me. He ended up going to work and now I'm sitting here besides myself because I don't even understand how this turned into such a huge argument so quickly.
TLDR: I asked my boyfriend why he was going into work late and he blew up on me, is behavior like this acceptable?
Submitted March 02, 2022 at 04:04AM by Gloomy-Baby https://ift.tt/KzQWuyJ
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