So this is the story:
I (M24) came home from work, greeted my girlfriend (F28) and she of course greeted me too, like always, all well and ok. Then she started to show me all the things she did at home, like cleaned the floor, put the clothes in order in the wardrobe and just other nice stuff. When I was still on may way home, she already had sent me pictures of all that she did. Shes proud of it and I'm happy about it and I do appreciate all of what she does, Im just not jumping in surprise and enthusiasm like she is, because I have a lot of things to do aswell (especially because she had sent me the Photos before already). Anyway, full of enthusiasm she then says me "There's another thing I want to show you that I did, I did the Wardrobe", and in that Moment I was preparing my backpack for the next day, so I don't Forget it in the evening. And just for a joke (well for me it was Kinda like a joke) I said her " You need a lot of Affirmations huh?". And that was it. She started crying, saying "Its such a bad thing to say, how can you say that. I am worthless"... When I said that, I guess I expected her to say something like "Yeah I do need alot, now come". You know, in a kinda playful, more confident way, especially because she was so enthusiastic. But she escalated... I cheered her up as well as I could, but then of course my mood had reached a low place, because I was feeling pretty well before that. And that set it for that day and we had another fight because of my destroyed mood, I was feeling like a bad boyfriend, like 'for real how could I say something like That?'. She convinced me and I was in the 'shit place'.
The thing about us is that we Have a 2y old child together. Its only me working and my gf stays home with the child. So, when I tired to cheer her up, she said she feels worthless because she cant earn money by herself and that I really made her feel even worse.
So I guess my question is, what do you think about this situation? Was that what I said really that bad or did she overreact? I do believe that she feels worthless, probably because shes always just with our child, but can I do something about it, or does she just have to become more confident? How?
The thing is that in these 4 Years, situations like this, that she overreacts on what I say, happened kinda often. At the beginning I didnt think alot about it, but I'm just getting tired of this and don't Know what to do. So yeah maybe theres someone with a similar situation? Or someone who experienced something similar? Giving thanks for the answers already!
TL;DR: My Gf overreacted on something I said and I'm asking whos right/wrong and what to do?
Submitted March 09, 2022 at 01:08PM by Al_Chemist777 https://ift.tt/KhlxIDJ
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