I (25M) cheated on my high school sweetheart years upon years ago. I have a question:

Does this feeling of shame ever go away? I deserved the fallout, the breakup, the social strangeness, the negativity sent my way. I was a stupid 18 year old.

People grew up and moved on. I’m doing fine in life, but this still hits me several nights a week when I go to bed. I broke a sweet little girls heart, gave her trust issues, and she gave me the world. We were a fine couple, both helping each other. She’s doing okay now, haven’t spoken in years. I don’t even miss her (neither her for me and rightfully so) but this feeling stays with me. I don’t even date anymore. I still feel so bad for her 18 year old self.

tl;dr Is it normal to remember cheating on a partner from teenage years, it actively affecting your mental thoughts in shame?

Submitted March 09, 2022 at 05:09PM by thejackruby https://ift.tt/Q9sTfnU