Hi all. Burner account for anonymity but I doubt any of my boyfriends family uses Reddit anyway.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. Things are going great, we talk frequently about spending the rest of our lives together and we really are best friends. We have our fights of course (over little things) but we bounce back fast and at the end of the day I know in my heart he’s the one and vice Versa.
His family likes me alot, his mom and dad and brothers and I get along great. Even built a great bond with his nephew. His friends and their girlfriends and I get along great too. His sister in laws cannot stand me though. And I would go as far to say that sister in law A hates me. And sister in law As hatred is now affecting sister in law B to the point where I don’t feel comfortable around her anymore either. Should mention sister in law A is unwed, so she’s not actually my sister in law at all but it’s easier to explain it this way.
Back when we first started dating, sister in law A (24 F) was pregnant and it was the beginning of covid. I didn’t meet her until about 6 months into our relationship because of this, but I was hanging out with sister in law B (30 F) pretty frequently because she lived in the same house as my boyfriend did at the time. We played a lot of video games together and had dinner doordashed frequently and just chilled and drank a lot. We were never best friends but we were pretty cool! I saw sister in law A a few times throughout the rest of 2020 but she barely looked at me and never spoke to me. So I didn’t put much effort in either. Didnt give it any thought beyond that.
Everything changed this New Year’s Eve. Sister in law a had a miniature meltdown and yelled at me about how I needed to make more of an effort to be her friend etc. I genuinely felt bad about it and realized I didn’t put much effort in to be close with her, but it was not intentional. I made an effort to reach out to her more and thought that was that. We went on a triple date a month later and she ignored me for about 6 hours so obviously I had pissed her off again. About a month later my boyfriend confronted her and asked what happened, she said nothing was wrong and we tried to be friends again. This is where it really spiraled.
She insults me every chance she gets. Insults my looks, my hobbies, my unemployment (I’m a full time student) and even said everyone said my boyfriend was gay before we got together. Not that it matters but my boyfriend is very masculine so this was just meant to hurt and embarrass me. She asks me many invasive questions and makes me uncomfortable all the time. I snapped one day when she did this in front of a group of girls and basically pushed back. I can't get specific, but she basically overstepped a major boundary regarding my boyfriends apartment. I never push back, so it got pretty awkward. One other girl went out of her way to tell me what sister in law A pulled was ridiculous and that I had to stand up for myself after it happened. My boyfriend basically said enough was enough at this point and now neither of us speak to her. I should mention she doesn’t talk to any other girls like this but she’s pretty verbally abusive to her man publicly as well, which is my boyfriends brother.
Anyway long story short, my boyfriend rents an apartment from sister in law B and her husband (his other brother). I’m there about 4-5 days a week. They have parties almost every weekend and we haven’t been invited to any the last month. The brother says it’s because they’ve been so busy lately. They also recently stopped using the inside door that connects the apartment to the house when they wanna drop stuff off etc, now his brother goes all the way to the outside entrance. I suspected this had something to do with sister and law a. Lo and behold, a friend confirmed this was right. Actually, the friend confirmed she talks negatively about me to everyone. The friend even tried to defend me a bit but sister in law b wasn’t hearing it. It’s now affecting my boyfriends relationship with his brothers. I feel awful about this and I don’t know what I can do to repair something I never even meant to damage.
How do I handle this?
TL;DR:
My boyfriends one sister in law hates me alot for almost no reason, its affecting his other sister in laws opinion of me, and now his relationship with his brothers.
Submitted May 24, 2021 at 11:54AM by burneracc0unt42069 https://ift.tt/3fg9aWU
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