Hi there Reddit.
Since September 2019, I go back and fourth to France from Belgium to take care of some personal business, namely my driving classes to get my license. My dad accepted to take care of the financial side of my license and I'm feeling very grateful towards him for that. Before all this mess, I used to have a very powerful bond with my in-law dad (language barrier, I'm not married to my partner).
Since that moment, he started getting annoyed by whatever thing I could say or do wrong in his point of view, even the slightest thing like not facetiming with him for 2+ hours every night. He stated in October that "my parents did nothing good compared to the love he's giving me" and that "my place was there, in Belgium with my true family". I had very serious conflicts in the past with my parents but it started to soothe with time.
I know he has problems with the first daughter he had back when he was still living in US, she wrote on her Facebook profile in November that she "felt grateful towards her mom raising her alone and that her dad was dead at her eyes" despite all the child care he took care of and the trips he did back then just for her. Since then he started feeling even more depressed.
In Christmas Eve, he sends a text that "I was not invited to the Christmas party anymore but BF is still invited if he wants to" even though hewas not the one hosting us that night. Why ? Because I didn't text him enough, giving enough news. I've managed to soothe the situation and ended up going with them anyway and didn't make a scene.
Today, I sent him a Happy new year wish through message because I'm going back to France. He answered "Thx. U2". I asked if anything was wrong and was still pissed at me for "not answering what he addressed me". I ended up exploding through message that I was tired of stepping on my toes constantly when I interact with him, that the preaching of discussing like adults was not applied on his side, that he behave like a teenager and that he could stay mad at me because I am tired feeling bad for nothing.
I feel terrible and I think I overstepped. Should I apologize ?
TL;DR : used to have a strong bond with in law dad, go back and fourth from France to Belgium for driving classes since September, since get constantly pissed at me for x or y reason, wanted to dismiss me on Christmas Eve, wished him happy new year through message today, he was still pissed, texted him back that I was tired of stepping on my toes around him and feeling terrible because of him. Now I feel bad and wonder if I should apologize.
Submitted January 05, 2020 at 11:29AM by IHateBloodElves https://ift.tt/2rVMOEm
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