My parents had me really young at 19 and they weren't good parents. My dad was in and out of jail for gang shit and my mom was in and out of rehab due to drug use. I went through CPS and lived with my grandparents, so I didn't live with them past the age of 5. My grandparents died when I was 14 and I could choose where I could live and I chose my parents again cause while they aren't perfect they loved me. They were still doing gang and drug shit so I left the second I turned 18 and at 19 they had another kid. My dad tried to go straight and leave the gang he was in but a rival gang killed him over some money he stole. After my baby sister was born my mom died too cause I she was depressed and ended it by overdosing. That left me in the situation to either let the baby go through adoption or take care of her myself. I chose to take care of her myself cause I couldn't live with myself and let that baby go through the adoption process and possibly put in another shitty household.
My fiancee wasn't thrilled at the idea of us having a baby when we were together for maybe a year but she came around. We decided to get engaged fast cause we both realized that we are gonna be father and mother figures to this baby. My sister has grown up calling me and my fiancee "mom and dad" and while I've told her about her actual parents and how were technically siblings she still prefers to call me dad and honestly, the type of life my dad lived I'm happy she would rather call me dad. I have a son too that me and my fiancee have had together who is 3 years younger than my daughter. She called him her brother and I am happy about that too.
My fiancee says its fine that she calls us mom and dad but thinks that I should tell her more stories of her bio parents but idk. I don't even got any good memories of them. They were shitty and only had me after a fling at a party and my mom wanted to keep me. They weren't even married but lived together, and ill tell her stories when she's older (she's 13 right now) but Id prefer if she calls me dad cause her actual dad was basically a deadbeat.
Is it wrong of me for liking her calling me dad and liking that she sees me as a father figure/her dad instead of her brother? I feel like in a way its forgetting my dad's memory but this may sound fucked up to say but I don't got a single nice thing to say about him other than he tried to get out at the very end
TL;DR:My parents had a bay and then died shortly afterwards. I (19 at the time) have taken care of it and my "sister" calls me dad and I call her daughter and I like it that way
Submitted December 21, 2019 at 12:44AM by Young_sis_TA https://ift.tt/34FgMtC
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