I know the title makes me sound like a bad person but hear out my situation. I've graduated since 2017 and since I couldn't find a job of state, and the job I got was close to my parents house, although I didn't like it, I had to move back home because they insisted that I live with them if I'm instate.
I decided as an adult, I should be contributing to the house so I have been paying rent to my mum.
I have not really enjoyed my time at home, my parents are ultra traditional, ultra religious and filthy. The house is never clean, I'm expected to clean after everyone since I'm a girl and no matter what I do the house is never clean.
Either way I have signed a lease to move out, despite how opposed they are to me moving out. I expect they will be mad at me for leaving for a while but I don't care. Eventually they will come around.
The only piece that worries me is the that I won't be able to pay two rents, and my mum has made it clear that if I ever move out I will still have to keep paying her. I've done my budget and that is not possible. Even if it was, I would like to save my money. She's a nursing manager and earns a bit more than me but my dad only works 20 hours a week because he decided he wants a master's degree which he is doing online so most of the financial burden is on my mum. Currently they are renting in an expensive neighborhood because my younger brother needs to be in a good school district.
I feel really bad knowing she might suffer financially but I can't keep staying here. My personal growth and happiness is at stake here. I'm so confused and conflicted. I get a bonus soon, I'm thinking of giving it to her to cover what rent I would have payed to her, but I also want to save my money.
Any advice on how to navigate this situation without drowning in a sea of guilt and becoming the family black sheep will be appreciated.
TL:DR I'm moving out soon on my own and will have to stop supporting my mother financially. What is the best way to do this without being a jerk and dying if guilt?
Submitted December 20, 2019 at 07:28PM by tartlollipop https://ift.tt/36Xx5n1
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