My boyfriend doesn’t want to kiss me anymore, and it is making me feel unwanted. Is it crazy for me to feel this way?

My boyfriend (21M) and I (20F) have been together for 3 & 1/2 years, we grew out of the teenager years together. We used to always kiss, makeout, and be goofy with each other and I remember we couldn’t get enough of each other. I remember I would do this thing where I would lick the side of his face slightly, or lick his lips while we made out and we would laugh about it, it was something fun we would do. But then suddenly 1 & 1/2 years ago he started flinching whenever I would get near him or pull away when I tried to kiss him. At first when I asked him why, he said it was because he didn’t like when I licked him.. so I completely stopped licking him, because if that would help him not flinch away or pull away when I wanted to kiss him, then okay that’s fine. But even though I completely stopped and try to respect his boundaries it just seems he’s still kissing me less and less. For me it just makes me feel close to somebody, being able to kiss them or to have little makeout sessions. He occasionally gives me a peck here and there, but still flinches and pulls away from me. It bothers me that everything is always on his terms and whenever I bring it up he gets so furious and says that even though he doesn’t kiss me or hug me or show affection to me like he used to doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me and that I should just get over it. I just feel so unloved and he tells me its so irrational for me to be even remotely upset about it, he refuses to work it out completely and always leaves a wound open that leads to more and more arguments about the same subject. I just feel like it might be time to let the relationship go if he’s not willing to show or give effort. The only thing holding me back right now is our living status since we live together and have a lease. My parents would take me back in a heartbeat, but the lease is what is keeping from leaving, and the small hope that things will get better.

TL;DR my boyfriend doesn’t kiss me how he used to, says I should get over it. He first said he would pull away cause he was afraid I would lick him so I completely stopped and it has not changed. We always have arguments about the situation and he doesn’t care to change or spice it up. This makes me feel unwanted and unloved. Is this a normal thing to do? Any advice or maybe someone tell me if I’m crazy for feeling this way? I just feel like I deserve so much more.. the more he pulls himself away, the more I feel like it would be easier to leave him.

Submitted November 20, 2019 at 01:02PM by bethalicious15 https://ift.tt/37mq4NI