I [28M] am afraid I'm going to be used [by 26F]. Or is this just how a normal relationship should work?

This girl and I have been seeing each other like 4 or 5 times a week for the past 3 months or so. Oftentimes she asking me to hang out. I really like her, and I have the impression she really likes me as well.

I did ask her if she wanted to be in a proper relationship about a month ago, and she said "not yet".

She's been in town for about a year, coming here needing distance from her ex of seven years after he cheated on her. She admitedly still has sex with some people in her hometown, though she rarely goes there (only once in these three months). So then she asked me for some time, which I was okay giving her.

That was a month ago.

Last night I had a talk with a friend and he said he's afraid she's using me. I hadn't even thought of that, but now it's stuck in my head and that voice won't go away.

It kind of makes sense:

• She knows hardly anybody else in town;
• I take her out on dates and to meet my friends, who she's happy to talk with;
• She's still very active on Tinder (though she hasn't been on any dates as far as she tells me);
• She doesn't like monogamous relationships beause she believes they lead to cheating (which happened with her ex)

So yeah, I'm afraid she's only with me because I have cool friends and when someone else appears I'm going to drop hard from her priority list. I'm afraid she's only with me because she has nobody else and is feeling lonely/needy.

We agreed to talk about it this week, so probably tomorrow when I see her. I'm going to tell her how I'm feeling.

There's a good chance I'm just overthinking it and this is all normal. Idk. Still, I wanted to hear some impartial advice.

Thanks!

TLDR: New girl in town, I fear she's only with me because she's lonely/needy. There's also a good chance I'm just overthinking it.

Submitted November 20, 2019 at 07:25AM by twxx https://ift.tt/2pCLm8R