Sometimes we go 2 days without texting or talking. We dont live together. At the start of our relationship he'd text me good morning, good night and he'd text me throughout the day . He'd talk to me for hours on the phone.
It's only been 1 year and 3 months and that has ceased.
I'm an overthinker. I feel like I should hear from my boyfriend everyday even if it's just one text. If I don't hear from him I start feeling bitter. I feel like he doesn't care about me, he doesn't have time for me and i start feeling distant. etc....
He always tells me that I really like our relationship because it's mature. If we don't hear from each other, I'm ok. I trust you. I personally don't think it's a mature relationship I think it's lack of communication and connection. I'm not ok with this.
I understand he works and has other things to do but a text takes less than 1 minute to send. I call him and he mostly answers but seems rushed and always says we'll talk later and we never do. He never calls back.
I talked to him about this 2 days ago. I just feel like I shouldn't have to tell him how to love me. He should be checking in with me. We dont check in. At the end of the week he doesn't know what's going on with me or how my week went and that seems to be ok with him. I don't feel emotionally supported. I need that support to connect with him physically and mentally. I think he has too much going on that he can't give it to me.
I feel like there's some kind of void and if it persists it's going to push me to get attention elsewhere.
Am I Being unreasonable? I really need honest answers because maybe I'm wrong. On his part I will say that it's difficult for him because my kid doesn't like him and so he doesn't visit me and seeing me is based on my child's schedule.
Tl;dr: I want to hear from my boyfriend everyday even if it's just a simple text. I feel he is emotionally unavailable and I'm thinking of finding attention elsewhere because of it. I feel like I can't have deep conversations with him about myself. Without this emotional connection I'm drifting. I can't connect mentally or sexually with him, without it.
Submitted July 13, 2019 at 08:24PM by Joz86 https://ift.tt/2NUVfds
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