I (40M) have a chance to move up at work, with a substantial raise. My partner (38F) doesn't like the idea because it involves travel.

My job has offered me a role which would increase my pay by roughly 15%. A pretty decent jump. However, it would involve some extra hours plus travel over the course of the year. I was in the position previously, buy due to pressure from my partner I stepped away. Now, my boss wants me back and is offering even more money.

Over the past few months any of the stresses and conflicts have been due to money, and dealing with children in our blended family. The money pressures would be alleviated by the new role, as it brings in significant money. But the children are a different story.

As it is, when I have extra duties for work, I often have to bring my son with me because she doesn't want to deal with him. This limits what I am able to do for work, and is starting to affect performance at times.

This new role would see me travel for roughly 16 nights between August and May, with two week long trips included. She says she can't handle all the children while I am travelling. Yet, I never worry about handling the home situation when she is on the road for her job.

This could be a crossroads for the relationship: a role at work which will keep our heads above the water, or me even starting to feel resentful for not taking an opportunity to advance in a pretty limited field.

It's tough, and as much as I love her, I get the feeling I'm an accessory for her (which is a totally different topic for another day)

TL;DR I have a chance to move into a position at work which will see a substantial raise, but it does involve occasional travel. My partner doesn't like the idea because she says it will saddle her with all the responsibilities of raising the kids.

Submitted July 25, 2019 at 12:29PM by skthrowaway2019 https://ift.tt/2GtPzAY