throwaway account because she uses reddit and knows my main
So, my gf (23/f) and I (26/m) have been dating for a little over 6 months exclusively, plus another two months of casual dating before that
she works at an animal shelter with the dogs, and she absolutely loves it. she's extremely passionate about her work, and it's honestly one of the things that made me so attracted to her.
but, I've started to notice more and more what a mental and even physical toll it takes on her. aside from the her getting bitten by dogs, sometimes really badly, she's talked to me about nightmareish abuse and neglect cases she sees, and I dont know how she does it. but what makes her the most upset are dogs that have behavior problems she tries to help, but then have to end up being put down anyway because they're too aggressive. shes had more than one day where she comes home in tears and cried until she vomits and wont eat for several days after because she's so distraught. It absolutely kills me to see her like that. and it's majorly effecting her over all outlook on life. and sometimes I feel like our relationship too
I know she loves her job more than anything, and shes been there almost five years, but I'm convinced it's slowly killing her. anytime I bring up finding a new job, she wont hear anything of it and is willing to get into an argument over it. how do I convince her? she also struggles with a mental illness and all this stress from work sometimes makes her somewhat spiral. this isnt healthy and I want to help her. I love this girl and can see myself spending the rest of my life with her, but she just cant go on like this
tldr; my gf has a job that is so emotionally stressful it's really effecting her (and by extension, our relationship) negatively, but will start a fight with me if I bring up her quitting to find something else. how do I convince her without an ultimatum?
edit for spelling and to add since a few have asked: yes she's in therapy. she has PTSD from her childhood and bipolar, but I dont know how much she talks about her work during her therapy sessions
Submitted July 24, 2019 at 10:19PM by megathrowswayphia https://ift.tt/2ybCCHy
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