I am a happily married woman living with my husband and 2 children. I work at an office where there are only a handful of men. There's one in particular, who I'm a bit closer to than the rest of my colleagues. We just have a lot in common. We sometimes take smoke breaks together and talk about work, relationships, politics, finances etc. He has never made any advances towards me or came on to me whatsoever. It's more of a brotherly/sisterly kind of bond. But only at work. The most we've done outside of work was hit a happy hour with a bunch of other co-workers. I also invited some people from work to my birthday party and he was the only one out of the bunch that showed up. Other than that, we do not speak at all after work hours. My husband gets mad. He makes comments about my "work boyfriend" and recently we argued about a WORK RELATED text conversation that he saw in my phone. He's gotten over it. And I understand him being jealous as I've demonstrated the same jealous behavior towards his female friends/co-workers. But now, people at the job are starting to mention how my co-worker and I "make a cute couple" or would ask one of us where the other one is because they never see us apart. Totally untrue. If my husband were to hear these comments, he would easily assume that we are having an affair. I have nothing to lie to Reddit about: I AM NOT HAVING AN AFFAIR. No offense to my co-worker, but even if I were single, I don't view him in ANY kind of romantic light at all. I dont get those vibes from him either and I've worked with him for a year. Worst off, if higher management were to hear these rumors, that can put our jobs at risk. I don't understand why 2 people of the opposite sex can't have a normal friendship without everyone thinking we are screwing around. It feels like high school. I HATE the rumors but I wouldn't want to cut him off and stop speaking to him just because everyone is misinterpreting things. Getting more awkward by the day.
Tl;Dr: My husband and workplace think I have a romantic relationship with my Co-worker and I don't. I may have to end the friendship just to avoid risking my job or marraige.
Submitted July 24, 2019 at 08:53AM by joym91 https://ift.tt/2JXgaas
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