Been together 2 years, engaged for 1.
So we all need something to do in our spare time after the hustle of every day home and work life and I am no exception. Few years back I played sports at a national level and had a group of friends I went out with after work and weekends to drink and chill etc and all seems to have changed.
So the sport when on a muscular leg injury and now I struggle to exercise more than walking. And the group of friends were gone after my ‘best friend’ since school days wanted to play the field my my then girlfriend so they whole friendship group had to go.
This left me with my love of cars and playing video games In my time away from work. Video games is easy and can’t really go anywhere because I can grab an app on my phone to get my occasional fix but now my fiancée is trying to take my car away using the struggle of finances against me - when it’s my money to do as I please with.
My fiancée is a PhD student and works part time to cover her costs and most of grocery shopping for the house, where I pay for the house and bills, my car and insurance etc and that’s about where my full time salary ends, and I have a bit of disposable income at the end to help towards the little bits for our wedding - luckily 90% is paid for through my entire life savings.
So - basically my car is expensive to own and run but it’s my only personal joy in life and I don’t feel massively selfish in doing so as we do survive every month, albeit tight sometimes but we get by.
I don’t know whether to be selfish and keep my dwindling hobbies and interests or just appease my fiancée and do nothing but sit and home and turn into a bored potato and just do whatever she wants all the time.
TLDR; should I appease my fiancée and give up my expensive car/hobbies and have nothing for my spare time (which would be upsetting and depressing to me) OR be selfish and say no?
Submitted March 02, 2019 at 03:04AM by Turbo_Iceman https://ift.tt/2VBCBGx
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