My parents used much of their savings to send me to a private high school... I went on to graduate top of my class and got a full scholarship to a private university, where I again graduated top of my class and got a comfortable job (unfortunately the industry I work in isn't known for high-earning careers)
The thing is, because I went to private schools since I was 13, means practically everyone I know is insanely wealthy. I make more money than most of my friends, but that doesn't mean much when their parents bought their homes and cars, and continue to pay for international holidays and allowances.
My friends are wonderful people. I've always gravitated towards down to earth people, so you'd never have a clue how loaded most of them are. This isn't about finding new friends, because I can afford to keep up with the normal social events (local holidays, concerts, dining out etc.) - it's more to do with my own insecurity.
They've all (in their separate wealthy social circles) made friends with other wealthy people, some of whom are... Not so down to earth. One of my friends tried to hook me up with someone, who turned out to be some kind of heiress who's never taken a public flight. We started casually dating, until she invited me to go on holiday in Switzerland with her family, and then was confused when I said I couldn't go. I think in general, dating someone with an obscene amount of wealth isn't gonna work for me. I can afford to do nice things a few times a month, but I can't fly first class, eat at 5* restaraunts every week or pack up for an international trip on a whim.
Even through work, most people I meet are trust fund kids. As I said, the industry isn't known for high paying careers... But it is perceived as glamorous and prestigious, so many people who aren't worried about income gravitate towards it.
My close friends know I don't come from wealth, but almost everyone I meet through work and extended social circles assumes I have the same generational wealth as them and can afford all the same things as them. Potential friendships and relationships tend to fizzle out quickly because I can't afford to do what they want to do.
As my friends start getting married (lavish ceremonies), buying family homes (mansions), becoming friends with other wealthy people and generally start living more "rich person" lifestyles, I can feel the gap between us becoming more and more apparent.
How do I break out of this bubble? Especially because I want to find someone to settle down with. How do I get over not being wealthy and just enjoy their friendship without feeling so insecure?
TLDR: Middle class person who basically only had rich friends. Leading to a lot of insecurity and feelings of isolation. How do I get over it?
Submitted March 02, 2019 at 01:01AM by PettyNotPretty https://ift.tt/2TaPbj6
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