My (F33) man (M32) is VERY close to his ex (F35)

My (F33) man (M32) is VERY close to his ex (F35). We’ve been together a little over a year and he was with her for about 4 years.

I know they ended on good terms and before we started dating I knew she was trying to get back with him but eventually he had informed her that he has someone else. And we started dating but only after few mths of being together I found out that they are VERY close... I was ok with it and I had told him that I would like to meet her and he kept saying one day. Then eventually I learned that she was trying to get back with him despite the fact that she knew about me and he was trying to be the nice guy - explaining to her that he is with me now and that’s where he belonged but she wouldn’t stop. Then he told me that is why I have not met her — because she doesn’t want to meet me — being the one who took the love of her life oh and her excuse to him is that she has horrible first impressions. I had informed him that it was f***ed up but tried to understand where she’s coming from.

Anyways she started dating and that made me feel a tad better but on his birthday she had bought him gifts:

1. A navy blue watch (casual)
2. A small wallet
3. Homemade healthy cookies

And I got him

1. A navy blue watch (dressy)
2. A small wallet (same brand)
3. Books

He would wear her watch every time he knows he will see her or drop something by her place ... he wears her wallet and not mine — and he still wears it to this day... while mine is still in the box. And I try my best to not let it get to me but it does bug me.

Anyways recently I learned that she has given him a copy of her house keys so he can babysit her cats when she is out visiting her man — and I was furious but he somehow managed to calm me down — but now that she is back he hasn’t given her key back and his excuse — if something happens to her at least he can come out and help her — because she has no friends and her man is out of town.

Is it me or this beyond ridiculous?? He is sick and tired of our constant arguments over this — we have no other major arguments — and he says that I give this whole situation and her unneeded energy... Now I know he loves me and so do I and I heard he is shopping for engagement rings but this friendship he shares with her is eating me alive and I don’t even know how to express that their friendship is f***ed up!! TL;DR!

Submitted December 29, 2018 at 07:29AM by Beetimes http://bit.ly/2EVpCdn