I don't know what to do. He is on antidepressants and I know they can make it harder to orgasm. But he says he's been like this for many years (prior to the medication) and he's been to the doctor and had a physical, etc.
He's only my 2nd sexual relationship so I am not totally sure what is average. However, I find sex with him to be exhausting. It will go on and on until I get sore and then we will switch to a blow job. I often encourage him to watch porn to help make it faster (but even then it takes a long time). Sometimes we will do a blow job only -- they go on for well over an hour. My jaw can't go that long so we will alternate between me doing that, and then he takes over manually for a while and I stimulate him in other ways.
I can come easily (less than 10 minutes usually). And then the rest of the time (ex: a 2.5 hour sex session) is basically trying everything to get him off. By the time he finishes, I'm dripping in sweat, my makeup is running, my body is aching from being in weird positions too long, my jaw is aching and I'm tired. Also (horrible to say) but I seriously just get bored. After the hour mark I would rather be doing ANYTHING else. We can't have "quickies". There's no such thing as a quickie with him.
I find myself avoiding sex and turning him down. I just think.....I can either have sex for the next 2.5 hours (and will end with my upper back and jaw aching), or I could have a nice hot bath, drink a cup of tea and read a book while curled up in bed. I really really really don't enjoy sex anymore.
What on earth can be done? I don't want to shame him because I know he can't help it and he does feel somewhat self-conscious. But sometimes I find myself become really irritated with him, and the more I turn him down the more he feels hurt and resentful.
TLDR: I know sex is important for intimacy in a relationship, and in the past I've had a healthy libido. However, in this relationship I find I avoid sex because my boyfriend has delayed ejaculation and it goes on too long and becomes painful and boring.
Submitted November 26, 2018 at 11:03PM by sinderella10 https://ift.tt/2DLsFV7
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