My [24M] girlfriend [24F] never comes out with our group of friends. She's now upset none of them are taking time off for her birthday.

I've been dating Lex for 4.5 years now and she's a great girl. She's an introvert to the core, though. She didn't really have any friends when I met her and has since become a part of my social group. The thing is - she rarely comes out. Which I get and I'm 100% ok with. My group of friends is quite large - there's around 15 of us. We all try and get together every week or two. We always spend the holidays together, etc. A large portion of my friend group is my baseball team and their girlfriend's.

My girlfriend, on the other hand, only comes out maybe every third or fourth time. They aren't bothered by it but I don't think they consider her to be a close friend because of it.. moreso just my girlfriend. Her birthday is the last weekend of January and she's trying to plan a get-away for our group of friends. She wants to book a hotel in the city and fit all 15 of us into one room (it's a suite with 6 beds). The problem is nobody is going to try and take the time off to go. They don't consider her a close friend and she doesn't understand why. I feel bad for her but I get where she's coming from. She never attends other people's birthdays, year end parties after our ball season, etc.

TL;DR: Friend group doesn't consider girlfriend to be a close friend because she never comes out. How can I help her understand without hurting her feelings?

Submitted November 16, 2018 at 10:18AM by SheDoesntGetIt7 https://ift.tt/2RWPwRc