My [22M] GF [23 F] of a year, withheld the fact that her colleague has been making moves on her. Continues to hang out with him

My gf recently started a new job and has a new group of friends, moat of whom I have met. She has them around her flat most nights of the week to smoke and chill out etc. which isn’t a problem at all, they all seem cool and I get along with them okay.

The other night, however, we were chilling with a couple of her female friends at her house, having a decent night and one of her friends mentioned how one of their work mates has a habit of trying it on with girls who have boyfriends. This started alarm bells ringing in my head but I let the conversation go on. Her friend then reminded her of the Saturday previous where the guy in question started making moves on her. My gf panicked and started trying to hush her up as she was saying this. What makes the whole thing worse is that she let him stay over “on the couch” that night

Of course at this point I was ready to kick off and could feel the adrenaline going. Without saying anythig I left the house and went to the pub to calm down for about an hour (admittedly not the best course of action) I came back and we went into her room to hash it out while her mates were in the living room.

The first thing I said to her was to tell me the truth about what happened or I was going to pack my things and leave. Immediately she starts crying and getting defensive. I asked her why she’d hidden it from me, and what the guy did. She said she was going to tell me that night, which i found hard to believe, considering it took one of her mates to say it and it happened a week ago. Then as for what exactly happeed, she said “he fell on top of me” whatever that means. She is adamant that he slept on the sofa and that’s all I really got out of her. She apologised and begged for another chance. She also said later on that she didn’t want to tell me because she didn’t want to upset and she knew I’d overreact, which I don’t think I did. And that me and the guy seemed to get along quite well (we did) and she was going to sort in between him and herself. To me, that contradicts what she said earlier about telling me later on that night.

The point of this post is really about what I do next. I’m not sure if I believe her totally. We’re sort of long distance most of the year so I won’t physically see her until xmas.

TL;DR my gf hid from me the fact that a co worker made moves on her and then let him stay over the same night. Not sure how to proceed (I understand the formatting might suck, I’m on mobile)

Submitted November 16, 2018 at 03:53AM by SpitRetlif https://ift.tt/2Q6NyAQ