TL;DR my girlfriend figured out I was going to propose on vacation. I want to surprise her and do it the night before we leave so that her parents and best friend can be there. Is this a good idea?
The long version:
My girlfriend warned me months ago that she would definitely figure it out when I was going to propose to her. I dismissed it and said no way, I'm good at keeping secrets, it's going to be a surprise.
Fast forward to last weekend. I was planning to do it on our vacation to Aruba. My brother and his fiancee, and our friend and his fiancee, were suddenly, and seemingly out of nowhere, willing to drop the money to come with us. I was trying desperately to get her best friend from grad school and her boyfriend to come with us (she can't) and my girlfriend noticed how disappointed I was when they said they couldn't make it. Clue #1.
Then, my friend who's coming calls, and asks if I'm alone and can talk about something. I ask him about what, he says vacation. My phone volume was loud enough that my girlfriend, quietly reading a book nearby, heard the question. I "jokingly" played it off like I couldn't talk, but the damage was done. To top it all off, my parents mysteriously offered to pay for the majority of the trip for us after I told them, and I think she was already somewhat suspicious because of that.
She figured it out. She straight up asked if I was going to propose. I was caught completely off guard, and just said "why would you ask me that?" I should have seen it coming; she was right that she'd figure it out. I only managed to keep it a secret for two weeks. And I'm extraordinarily disappointed.
So, I've decided to change plans. I still want to surprise her and catch her completely off guard. My thought is that instead of asking her while ON vacation, I ask her the night before we leave, and treat the trip as a celebration. She's not huge into being showy about things like this, and tends to be casual. So my plan is to go over to her parents' house (we live out of town and will be taking the plane from our hometown) and propose to her there, somewhat privately, away from her parents, but allow them to be a part of it (she's very family-oriented).
The pros: she can celebrate with her family, she'll be surprised, and her grad school friend who wasn't able to make the trip with us will be able to come and be there to witness it.
The cons: it won't happen in Aruba, it'll be way more casual versus the romantic sunset proposal I had anticipated, and it won't be as private as I had hoped it would be.
So, the question is -- do you think it's better to surprise her at home, or just go ahead and do it on vacation even though she's expecting it?
Submitted November 15, 2018 at 08:28PM by Morning-Chub https://ift.tt/2FqShJe
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